My friend Mary gives the best advice. Over a year ago, I sat in her front yard with tears in my eyes, and told her that my daughter in law and grandson were not coming back from what was supposed to be a visit to Japan. I told her I feared the worst – I may never see my grandson again.
Mary put her hands on my shoulders, looked me in the eye and said this.
“Love her through this. No matter what happens, just love her.” I got chills, because I knew she was in one of those inspired moments, when a Universal truth pulses through us. And then she gave me the longest, bestest Mary-hug, and I left her house feeling stronger.
I followed Mary’s advice. I loved my daughter-in-law. I sent her love in emails, packages, and letters, but mostly I sent love in the prayers I said for her and Ayumu every morning. For over a year, I continued to pray and meditate every day, because I didn’t know what else to do. And the side result is that so many good things have begun to happen in my life since I became diligent about this. I can’t prove that there is a God, or guardian angels, or saints. But if God is Love than I can safely say I believe in God. And I do know without doubt that approaching a fearful situation with love makes it better, and easier to bear. This has now become the rule in our house. When we are faced with a challenge, we say “throw love at it”.
And this is how I know it works…
A few weeks ago my husband Troy wrote this beautiful song for Ayumu. He poured all the love in his heart into it and sent it to Japan.
Suddenly, something shifted. Our daughter in law contacted us to say that on April 14th … she will bring Ayumu to America for a one-month visit. In two weeks, I will hold our beautiful grandson in my arms again.
The last time I held him, he was 18 months old. Now he is almost 3. He speaks Japanese, and I speak English, but I’m not worried about that. Love is the Universal language.
This morning when I prayed, this is what I said.
Thank you
Thank you
Thank you
Thank you to Mary for her wisdom.
Thank you to my husband for his music.
Thank you to all my friends, Erin, Beth, Dani, Amy, Julie, who held me together through this when it was unbearable. 
Love makes everything bearable. 
Love makes everything possible.
*The backstory is here: A Heart Breaks Slow

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  1. Anonymous

    Great news! Lots of OXOXOXOX on the way to you!Very Happy for all of you.


  2. Anonymous

    I am so crying for joy! Troy your song is beautiful! I am completely happy for you and your family!!! Your grandson is beautiful and I see complete light in your future!!! 🙂

  3. Sue

    When you live your life the way you and Troy do, as genuine, sincere, kind, giving and loving people, the Universe will always echo back what you put forth. I really enjoy reading your blog and this is just wonderful news to hear!!
    Love is something if you give it away; it always comes back to you!


  4. Anonymous

    Troy's lullaby for Ayumu is beautiful and soothing. Perseverance in the face of adversity… loving your way through the pain and fear. Mary sounds like a wise and wonderful friend. I look forward to your posts about Ayumu's visit and am so happy for you and your family.


  5. Anonymous

    Your song made me cry Troy. So beautiful and your grandson is beautiful Hollye and Troy. I see light in your future coming your way!!!

  6. jlnewton

    Wonderful news, Hollye! And a real lesson.


    Oh Hollye,

    This is such a beautiful teaching. Thank you for sharing and I will hold the vision of your grandson nuzzling in your arms, in a couple of weeks.

  8. Hollye Dexter

    Is this my beautiful Mary Harris? Thank you so much. I can't wait for you to see him! love you!

  9. Hollye Dexter

    Thank you Judy. You have been such a great cheerleader to me over the year. I can't wait to get your new book!

  10. Hollye Dexter

    I so believe that Sue. I know you live this way, too.

  11. Terry

    Troy's song brought tears to my eyes, beautiful. I'm so happy for you guys.
    Keeping love alive!

  12. Melanie

    Love is the everything of us. So happy for your family!

  13. Hollye Dexter

    Thank you so much Karenne. I hope to post many more happy, loving posts full of good news about Ayumu's visit.

  14. Hollye Dexter

    Thank you for holding a vision of us Michelle. xo

  15. Hollye Dexter

    I agree! I mean, I know I'm biased but….sheesh that kid is cute.

  16. Hollye Dexter

    Love IS the everything.
    xo to you Melanie

  17. Hollye Dexter

    Thank you thank you Terry!
    Keeping love alive in this corner of the world- seems to be the most powerful thing we can do.

  18. Christina M.

    I am so crying for joy! Troy your song is beautiful! I am completely happy for you and your family!!! Your grandson is beautiful and I see complete light in your future!!! 🙂


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